Parents - Children Relationships

Parents - children relationships have always been complicated. When children turn into raging teenagers, who defy their parents to reach their independence, the relationships become even more problematic than usual. The difference in the way of thinking may lead to many struggles between parnts and their children and each one of them may react differently in this situation.

The main reason for the difference between parents' and children's way of thinking is the generation gap, which is often discribed by psychologists as a constant situation of historical disagreement and misunderstandings, caused by the difference in age and experience. In other words, The parents have experienced much more than their children during their lifetime and they believe they know what is best for their children. The problem starts when the children grow up and become more mature, and consequently believe they know what is good for them. The parents try to protect their children, but the children don't see it as their parents do. 

Between me and my parents the situation is similar. When I was young, there were no struggles between us, but when I became a teenager I started to seek my independence. At the beginning, my parents found it very difficult to accept this. It was hard for them to "release their baby" and let me decide what is good for me. There were many fights between us, until I decided to talk to them and explain what I felt. After we had talked at length about it, they were convinced that I am mature enough to make my own decisions. I still consult with my parents and consider what they say because they are much more experienced than I am.

So, in conclusion, I think that there will always be problems and struggles between parents and children, because of the genration gap. However, those problems can be solved by talking politly with the parents. I am sure that if you talk politly to your parents, explain your feelings and stay calm, they will understand you and, bit by bit, you will recieve the independence you asked for. Now it's time for you to spread your wings and fly !

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Daphna

Different Kinds of Sports

There are many kinds of sports and we can divide them into two groups – team sports and individual sports. In the group of the team sports we can find Football, Basketball, Baseball etc. In the other group, the individual sports, we can find sports such as running, swimming, Tennis etc. Some people prefer individual sports while others like to play in a team, but which kind of sports is preferable?

On the one hand, playing in a team is a pleasure for all the members and it teaches them a lot. Someone who plays in a team learns to cooperate with others, he learns about the importance of teamwork and this will help him later in his life – in his work, with his family and in many other fields. In addition, when someone plays in a team, he learns to appreciate the others and learns to be modest. He learns that he is not the only one in the team and that he is equal to the other players in the team. The team player learns that he is not the only one who is playing and learns to compliment another player if he played well.

On the other hand, the individual player also gains some important skills. For example, he learns to maximize his abilities. He learns what is good for him and gets to concentrate only in the game and not in what the others do. This kind of sports is suitable for people who don't like to work in a team and for people that can take on themselves the responsibility for the whole game. They are people who are not able to take care of others while they are working or playing.

To conclude, I prefer the team sports. In those kinds of games and sports you gain some important skills which will help you not only in sports, but also in life. You learn to cooperate with others and learn how to work in a team. All that will help you at work, for example. Also, you learn to appreciate people for what they do and it is very important in life.

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Daphna

I will succeed !

What does success mean to you ?
Success for me, Noa, is to be an Architect and an Interior Designer. This is the future career, which I decided on when I was 12 years old, since my big cousin flew to Italy and started to learn Architecture, a subject which I was interested in. But success is very different from one to another, because every person sees success in a different way, and his success is expressed in various fields.


To reach my goal and to become an Architect and an Interior Designer, I need creativity, which is very important in the field of design. It is an important quality because you need to know how to match the colors, which fabric is suitable for the furniture, you need to have a spatial vision etc. If I have this quality, it will help me to succeed, because it will be much easier for me to understand how to work with colors, with substances etc. In addition, the quality of creativity will help me to create unique items.

In addition, I need the quality of persistence, because the studies of those subjects are very long and difficult. If I want to finish my studies and to get a degree I need to persist in my studies. I am not always persistent in my job or studies, and the result of that is  receiving low grades in the tests. This really bothers me, because I am a perfectionist and I like it when I succeed in whatever I do.

In conclusion, for me success in life is to be an Architect and an Interior Designer (and to start a family, of course!). To achieve that goal I need some qualities such as creativity and persistence. You should remember - you can be born with those qualities, but also you can acquire them and improve them. All the things you would like to do in your life, you will be able to do with just a little persistence.




And I will finish with a song, which expresses  success the best way - "We Are The Champions", by Queen. The meaning of the song is that despite the difficulties in life and the mistakes we may do, we can win everything and achieve any goal we like!

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Daphna

What Should I Choose ?

 A dilemma is a problem offering two possibilities, neither of which is practically acceptable. Most of the time, it is very difficult to reach a decision in a dilemma. Our lives are made of lots of dilemmas, and we direct our lives through our choices.

When the sixth grade was about to end I had to decide which Junior High School I should go, because the sixth grade is the last grade in the Elementary School. I was tested to be admitted to many schools and to be admitted to different courses in those schools.

I was admitted, eventually, to three Junior High Schools. I had a dilemma – which school to register?

Most of my friends from the Elementary School went to "Atidim High School". But this school had a bad reputation, and I decided not to go to this High School. I decided also not to go to the music course.  At this time I had to choose between the two courses – dancing or science. It was very hard for me, because on the one hand, I really love dancing and I danced until the ninth grade and my dream was to be a Ballerina. On the other hand, I loved science. I was a very good student, especially in science class, and I had very good marks. In addition, I was about to move to a new apartment, which was very close to" Golda Junior High School". In the end, I decided to go to the science class in" Golda Junior High School".

When I came to "Golda Junior High School" I only recognized a few friends whom I knew from my Elementary School, and most of the students knew each other, because they had studied together. In addition, the connection between me and my friends from Elementary School was cut off, and there was a time that I felt lonely, until I made new friends, and we are still friends today. 

To conclude, I think I made the right decision when I chose this class, because if I hadn't chosen this class I would have never met my best friends. If I had gone to another school I would have never known them at all, and maybe I would still dance today.

 I'm satisfied with the choices in my life, and I believe that everything happens for a reason. I would not change anything in my life, it is perfect for me. I wish you will always know to reach the right decision.

This song always reminds me of changes in life, like a change as a result of a decision you make and how it affects your life : 

Now your work is really great. Well done!
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Daphna

A Letter to Mr. Cattanzara (Activity Six)

03/08/1938




 Dear Mr. Cattanzara,
                                                                                             
Only now, after ten years, I got the courage to sit and write this letter.  

First of all, I want(ww.-would like) to apologize to you - I am sorry for having lied to you. I hope you know how important you are to me and how thankful I am for teaching me this lesson.

I was an idiot, I have always dreamed about money and success, but I haven't done anything in order to reach that goal ! I quit school and didn't do anything to pick up my education. So, I lied to you because I didn't want to let you down.

You have always cared about me and I thought that a 20 year old guy might have an education, certainly a guy like me, who has a lot of big dreams for his future. You knew how important it was for me to be respected, and when I told this lie about my reading I thought that I would feel good and you will(gr.) feel good - you will(gr.) be happy that people respect me and that I'm being educated. After a while you found out the truth, but you didn't tell anyone, and I thank you for that, because if you told the truth to the people in the neighborhood I couldn't deal with it. By not telling other people the truth, you let me understand by myself that I was wrong.

I don't even know if you remember our talk that night, but I will not be able to forget it my whole life. You told me that night "don't do what I did" and since that day I wondered what have you(wo.) done... After that talk I closed myself in my room for a week and refused to go out (I only got out to the kitchen when nobody was at home), and after the summer, in the fall, I finally figured out what I should(ww.+gr. - had to) do. Then I went to the library and started reading. I read a great book and then I discovered that actually I really like(gr.-liked) reading.

Today I'm learning(ww.-studying) Literature and Journalism, and that's all thanks to you ! I don't know how to thank you for all the things you have done for me ! I have my own column in the "New-York Times" where I recommend books and even publish my own short stories and poems. Isn't it the newspaper you used to read everynight ? Do you still read it ? How ironic...

Nowadays, I live in a nice private house in a beautiful neighborhood with my wife and my eighteen months old son.

I want you to know - you are one of the most important people in my life. I will not forget you and I will thank you for what you have done for me for the rest of my life.

Thank you !

                                                                 I am gratful and miss you every day, 

                                                                                     Love, George Stoyonovich.


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"A Summer's Reading" - Activities 1-5

Activity 1:

 How do they escape from their reality?

Drag the correct answer to each of the characters.

George Stoyonovich Goes to the park to day-dream. Mr. Cattanzara Drinks alcohol. The Queen singer Commits a crime

Now that you understand how different people escape from reality, what do you recommend they should do instead?

Answer:

Both George and Mr. Cattanzara try to escape from reality. George goes to the park to day-dream and Mr. Cattanzara drinks alcohol. I would recommend to George to learn something or to find a job and then he will do something instead of day-dreaming. Mr. Cattanzara does other things to escape his reality – he reads "The New York Times" newspaper every evening from the beginning until the end of it, but sometimes he drinks alcohol. Instead of that he should go out with his wife or find another job that would challenge and attract him.
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Activity 2:

1. Explain the following line from the story. Say what has happened to make George feel this way. Use the thinking skill of Explaining Cause and Effect to help you: "George knew he looked passable on the outside, but inside he was crumbling apart."

2. Another issue to discuss here is the effect George's lie had on his life:

How did the lie George told affect his life? Consider both the short term and possible long term effects of the lie.

Answers:

1. George met Mr. Cattanzara while he was wandering in the streets. Mr. Cattanzara was drunk and George hoped that he won't(gr.-wouldn't) see him, but he had seen him and after that he treated him like a little kid, probably because he knew that he(had) lied to him about his reading. George tried to act like everything is(gr.) fine, but inside he felt devastated. He was really ashamed to have disappointed Mr. Cattanzara. He liked him a lot because Mr. Cattanzara always took care about(ww.-of) him.

2. George told Mr. Cattanzara that he has(gr.) a list of 100 books to read in the summer, but this was a lie. After he told the lie, people started to respect him and he liked it, because he wanted people to respect him. But after Mr. Cattanzara found out the truth, George was depressed and closed himself up in his room, because he thought he disappointed Mr. Cattanzara. The long term effect on George's life was that he started reading.  

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Activity 3:

Find and tick all the autobiographic details reflected in the story.
	Bernard Malamud wrote about famous people.
	Bernard Malamud worked at odd jobs.
	Bernard Malamud's mother died when he was young.
	Bernard Malamud was interested in simple people.
	Bernard Malamud wrote about people whose hopes come true.

How is the information you have just read about the author reflected in "A Summer's Reading"?

How does reading this information about Bernard Malamud add to or change your understanding of the story?

Answer:

There are some details which are similar between Bernard Malamud and George. Both George's mother and Bernard Malamud's mother died. They both grew up in the same period of time - the great depression - and in the same area - New York region. All this information helps me understand where the inspiration for George's character was coming(gr.-came) from. Bernard Malamud's childhood is expressed in the story as George's childhood.
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Activity 4:

How would you define the character of George Stoyonovich?

George is a neighborhood boy who quit(s) school at the age of 16. He always wants people to respect him, but the truth is that he doesn't do anything to gain this respect. His mother died and his father is poor, so he tries to escape the reality by wandering through the park every night. George's dream is to find a good job, so that he will be able to afford dating girls and he will be able to buy a big house in a nice neighborhood with a lot of green trees. 1. What is true about Mr. Cattanzara? 2. Compare and contrast George and Mr. Cattanzara. How are they similar? How are they different? Answers: 1. Mr. Cattanzara is a bald headed man who works as change maker in the IRT station. He is George's neighbor and he is like a father figure for(ww.-to) him. As I can understand from the story and from the meaning of his name, Mr. Cattanzara is chained to his place – he did something in the past that makes his reality bad and now he tries to escape it by drinking alcohol and by reading the whole "New York Times" newspaper everyday, from the beginning to the end. He wants George to be able to take his life in his own hands (and improve it), unlike him. 2. Between George and Mr. Cattanzara there are similarities and differences.  They both live in the same neighborhood in a difficult time. They both try to escape their difficult realities. The difference between them is that they deal with the reality (or try to escape from it) in different ways - George wanders through the park every night and Mr. Cattanzara sometimes drinks alcohol and everyday reads "The New York Times"(wo.) from beginning to end. In addition, George still can take his life in his hands and he can learn, but for Mr. Cattanzara it is maybe too late. (19) Activity 5: עמודה ראשונה                                   עמודה שנייה Living in a multicultural society.   2             1.   Growing up. Coping with difficulties.   3 2.      Being an immigrant. Taking responsibility.  1             3.   Proper Education Why is the story titled "A Summer's Reading"? Answer: The story is titled "A Summer's Reading", because it has at its core(phr.) George's lie about his summer reading. Even though he started reading only in the fall, during the summer time George got(ww-learned) an important lesson for his(מיותר) life thanks to which he would eventually be able to learn and succeed as he dreamed.  (18) Very good work! (96) Daphna

Who Is Under These Clothes ?

When I'm sad I often go to the mall. I past the window shop(ww.+phr.) , looking for new collections in the stores and buy some new clothes, shoes and accessories. It makes me feel good , but it is actually not as good as it seems. Nowadays, clothes have become a major part in people's lives. To be honest, it takes a major part also in my life. My apperance is very important to me and if I look well(ww.) I feel well(ww.) too, but me and many other people(phr.) are becoming more and more obsessive with our apperance.

In the last few years people are buying designers clothes or Brand clothes. They think that the clothes influence the way people will treat them. The designers clothes can make them feel unique, because there are not many of them, and that is why people buy them - they want to be special. When a person feels special, it makes him feel good about himself.

People stopped looking for the person who is under the clothes and started to choose friends according to what they wear. We also judge people by their looks, probably when they dress in a different style than our style. Our behavior towards people stemes from their appearence and not from their personality. People attach so(ww.-too) much importance to other people's looks.

To conclude, I think it shouldn't be this way. It's true - not everyone has the same taste in clothes and the same style. It doesn't mean that people have to judge other people or treat them in a different way just because they like(a) different style of clothes. Clothes can make you feel good about yourselves but don't forget to treat well people who look different(phr.+wo.). 

Don't stop loveing yourselves (not because of your clothes ;] )

Love, Noa ♥ - חמוד אבל מיותר

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By the way, there is great song by Chris Brown called "beautiful people", just like you guys :)